Keep in contact with your family, even if you’re always the one initiating – I was at the point where I felt like if my family didn’t call me, they didn’t care. That is just not the case. They may not know your schedule or feel bad bothering you. This really struck a point when I realized my grandpa was getting older and older everyday. When I would end up calling him, his entire demeanor seemed to light up. I promise you will never regret calling people, you will only regret not calling people.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, you are learning and that’s the point – No self-deprecating behavior. No matter with work or school, life is always about learning and improving. I think the people who struggle with this the most are people who try to be perfect or may be in a demanding school or work setting. The fact is, nobody is perfect. The goal is to be continually striving to be the best you can be. This is something I still need to work on.
Listen to people while maintaining eye contact – Let people finish talking. Engage in the conversation. I especially practice this with patients when studies have shown that doctors interrupt patients after 20 seconds of talking. Don’t cut people off – wait until they’re finished talking. As a doctor, the patient will tell you the pathology.
Removing yourself from social media is freeing – I deleted the instagram app off of my phone about 2 weeks ago. It is crazy to think that after deleting something I used to spend so much time on, I do not miss it at all. I don’t miss people trying to sell me stuff and show me how wonderful their lives are compared to mine. It is so fake it’s infuriating. Next is snapchat and facebook in the future. Before deleting my instagram app, I made a list of things I would rather spend my time on which I think made me more motivated to get it out of m life.
Saying “thank you” and showing gratitude is powerful – It is something so simple to do, yet can mean the world to someone. On the other hand, it is something that is so easy to forget and to make someone feel terrible. I used to not be as good at making sure I always show people how grateful I am towards them, but I have definitely gotten better.